What it means to live your highest timeline - in TRUTHFUL terms

There is no greater recovery of self and God than pursuing your deepest desires and dreams - and that is LIVING your highest timeline.

Many successful, spiritual women believe it is humble to ask for less — to be meek, accommodating, spiritually “good,” and to place the wishes and desires of others above their own. This posture is often praised as virtue, maturity, or devotion.

Over the last year, I have come to understand that this is the biggest lie of the spiritual ego — particularly within healers, lightworkers, spiritual warriors and those who identify as “good people.”

In every single client I have worked with — without exception — when I ask what they desire most, the answer always leads back to the same place: pursuing their purpose and living in abundance through it.

That purpose is never self-serving in the way people fear. It is always rooted in service. Not once has a client who feels called to do deeper work with me shared a desire that exists only for themselves. There is always a longing to contribute, to support, to heal, to create something meaningful in the world.

They know this not intellectually, but at a soul level — and it comes from listening to their deepest desires, choosing themselves, and acting on what they truly want.

Self-denial is not devotion to God or the people you love.

There is a pervasive belief in spiritual spaces that denying the self is synonymous with holiness — that shrinking desire, minimizing wants, and remaining palatable is evidence of moral or spiritual maturity. It isn’t.

Devotion to your loved ones or even God is not the abandonment of the self; it is alignment with it. When a person is aligned with their true desires and calling, their work naturally becomes service. Self-alignment does not diminish love — it deepens it. What weakens love is self-betrayal masquerading as virtue.

When people resonate with the truth that choosing themselves is choosing the whole, it is because God lives within each of us. I am comfortable saying God — you may prefer Source, The Beloved, or Infinite Intelligence — but the principle remains the same.

We are not separate. Fulfillment does not exist in choosing oneself instead of others, but in choosing oneself in service of others. God knows we cannot go at it alone, and so within each of us are callings and deep desires planted by The Beloved — not to inflate the ego, but to awaken us to true abundance and to prosperity in love, finances, emotional health, and psychological well-being.

These desires are not distractions from the spiritual path. They are the path.

When we listen to these desires and choose to become the vessel that honours them, we become living evidence — a miracle in and of itself — for others that the same is possible for them.

Not through persuasion. Not through performance. And certainly not through the performance of the maxims of “healthy spirituality.”

But through grounding spirituality through the body — by becoming the manifestation of your soul’s truth in lived, observable reality.

I have seen this clearly in my own life. As I chose to live my highest timeline — to devote myself to my dreams rather than diminish them — the people around me became healthier and stronger. My relationships deepened. And perhaps most unexpectedly, I became less egocentric, not more.

Hiding yourself means pushing away the things you want -

the men I saved never wanted me, because I didn't REALLY want them

When I was choosing small, I found myself trying to heal men with deep trauma — sacrificing what I actually wanted in a partner to save the inner child of a man I did not desire.

These men never loved me for that. They resented me. And of course they did. I was lying to them about what I wanted, even when I could not yet admit that I was lying to myself.

No matter how spiritually developed or emotionally aware a person is, they can sense false devotion. They might not be able to articulate or identify it, but they can feel love offered from self-betrayal rather than truth — even when the giver is blind to it.

When I was small — when I was excessively considerate, apologetic, and unwilling to prioritise my highest timeline — I quietly carried a broken heart. A heart that had ached since I was twelve years old, longing for love.

I would sit opposite other healers, teaching energy work and spiritual practices that were meaningful and real — and yet my own heart remained unhealed. The very part of me that was meant to be most alive in spiritual work stayed offline.

Over the last year, I have come to understand that this is the biggest lie of the spiritual ego — particularly within healers, lightworkers, spiritual warriors and those who identify as “good people.”

In circle after circle, in healing group after healing group, in spiritual community after spiritual community the instruction was the same: love others, open your heart, be there for everyone. And yet I could not feel it. It felt disingenuous.

Because love is not self-sacrifice.

There is sacredness in honouring your own worth, skill, and value. In the time spent doing deep, consistent work. In the money invested in learning. In the many times you try and fail and choose again anyway. These are not indulgences. They are acts of devotion — to the self, to your loved ones and to God.

To pretend this devotion has no value is another form of spiritual dishonesty.

There is also discipline required in choosing your highest path. And in the choosing, it has made me more humble than ever. I’ve learned there is much work in truly connecting with people and deeply understanding WHAT they need help with (most times they don’t know themselves).

So when women think it is humble to stay small, shrink into groupthink, to hide, to avoid, to tell themselves soothing white lies about the choices they make, they mistake passivity for virtue. When deep down they know that while it may look like success for everyone else — maybe they are even celebrated and complimented — they know it’s just pretend. It’s just on paper. It’s not your truth.

Because love is not self-sacrifice.

Self plus truth (i.e. true love) equals connection.

Love is not the removal of the self from the equation. For the spiritual woman, this can seem counter-intuitive to the all-encompassing love and gifts she wants to share with her family, children, and the world. Because she often thinks she must be the solution while simultaneously excluding herself — her limits, her boundaries, her desires, her flaws, her gifts, her secrets, and her capacity — from that solution.

But these were given to her by God to understand how to master herself, the expression of God through her, and how to communicate with reality. When you can work with limitations and create miracles from that, you are in your flow of genius and then become the architecture through which God learns to move through you.

When she works with her limits instead of bypassing them, miracles occur. This is where her genius flows. This is where she stops performing spirituality and starts living it.

in your flow of genius you become the architecture through which God learns to move through you.

Playing small is not humble. Accepting less is not meek. It is not matriarchal. It is not love. And it is not what God wants for a woman.

When I chose myself and my deepest desires, I chose God — because I allowed the miracle of God to move through me without obstruction.

And once you see this, there is no other choice.

This is your highest timeline.

If you're ready to connect more deeply with your soul and work with it to start manifesting your soul purpose and living the happy money, soulmate relationships and confidence and clarity of your highest timeline - Join the next Intuition in Action starting on 22 February 2026 and claim your spot by emailing me at taryn@tarynnightingale.com